Why It’s Okay to Ditch All Those New Year’s Resolutions

For one, we often set goals that are waaaaaay too insanely ambitious from the get-go.

So you like to look at the stars. You find the cosmos intriguing. You just bought your first telescope. Your first goal out the gate probably shouldn’t be “Fly to the moon and establish a moon colony.”

If you’ve been a couch potato lately, and you want to “run more next year,” how about working up to running around the block first, and then around the neighborhood, and then maybe a couple miles after that. Do that for awhile, work up your strength little by little, and then maybe we can talk marathon. If you’ve never even run a 5k, it’s probably best that your first goal not be “Win 17 Marathons.” Start with turning off the Netflix, and getting off the couch.

There’s something deeper at play though. Some research indicates that goals can even sometimes do more harm than good. In short, they bring out the worst in us.

“Researchers from four top business schools have collaborated to show that in many cases, goals do more harm than good. Worse, they claim, goals can cause real damage to organizations, and individuals using them. The researchers identified “bad side effects” produced by goal-setting programs, including a rise in unethical behavior, a narrow focus, distorted risks, the corrosion of organizational culture and reduced intrinsic motivation.”

Why do you think so many New Year’s Resolutions are abandoned by spring time? Probably because it’s basically a list of things that are set up from the beginning to make you feel like a downright failure eventually – because we’re ignoring where we are now.

Oh no, I didn’t get to the moon!! I’m a failure.

Oh no, I didn’t lose 50 pounds in one month!! I’m a failure.

Oh no, I did run around the block, but I’m not ready for a marathon!! I’m a failure.

Oh no, I didn’t get that raise I wanted, and now I feel like a useless corporate blob!! I’m a failure.

To be clear, there’s nothing wrong with self-improvement; it’s a lovely thing. We’re not advocating apathy or being super-stuck in the status quo.

Being SUPERCHARGED® is all about your intention, and where you’re actually starting from. Setting overly-ambitious goals neglects the present moment. It’s living in the future, or the past, when we need to start here, right now, to get anywhere else.

“The essence of who you are does not lie in the past (or the future). What matters is what you are willing to do now. You are the presence.”

- Eckhart Tolle
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We’ve tried it all, and what we’ve found more than anything is that SMALL DAILY CHANGES, SMALL DAILY EFFORTS – not lofty, crazy ones – often produce greater results than all those moonshots you end up missing.

We’ve realized that more than anything else, positive, truthful, empowering self-talk determines every day achievable outcomes even more than specific ambitious goals set.

It’s about accepting who you are right now, and where you are now, presently. And then from there – from that place of acceptance – stepping forward one foot at a time allows you to feel accomplished every step of the way.

So here’s our recommendation for next year.

SCRAP THE GOALS.

REMEMBER YOUR INTENTIONS.

TAKE ONE DANCE STEP AT A TIME. 

ONLY POSITIVITY IS ALLOWED IN BOUNDS.

Scrap all that keeping up with the Joneses. Scrap all the comparisons. Scrap all the external stuff, and start with focusing on unconditionally accepting yourself first.

LET THIS BE YOUR ONLY RESOLUTION GOING FORWARD.

 

  1. Pick a few lines from our guiding force, our mantra, our manifesto – the Statement – pictured below, and speak them out loud, every day – to yourself. Say it before you go into a meeting, the moment you get up, or maybe during a stressful situation, any time, anywhere.

 

That is your only goal moving forward. Do that, and we promise, you’ll accomplish waaaay more than you would have with absolutist goals that make you feel like absolute crap year after year.

Ok go:

Question:

HOW ARE YOU GOING TO LOVE YOURSELF THIS NEXT YEAR? Tell us below!

 

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Hey love. I'm Kwanza Jones the creator of SUPERCHARGED®. I, along with the entire SUPERCHARGED team, am happy you are here. Welcome! If you're like most of our readers, you're committed to reaching your goals in fitness and life. But sometimes you struggle with staying motivated. That's where we come in. We help you feel the energy, turn it up and ignite your life.

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douglas January 3, 2017

I have the statement posted on my bathroom mirror!

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luis January 6, 2017

The statement is very inspirational and keeps me motivated!

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christine January 6, 2017

Yes! Being proactive about motivating yourself every day is essential if you want to reach your goals

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